Or maybe you fear of getting embarrass if you approached a group of girls with one or two guys with them because you ASSUMED that those guys were cooler than you.

Most guys shy away from approaching women who are with other guys for a couple reasons.

Most guys when they saw the girl being with another guy, they think it is her boyfriend.

This shouldn’t be the basis of not talking to a woman. Especially in a social setting like in the bar, where people meet other people. Plus - that woman is not a “slave” of the guy or a piece of property, she’s a human being and is free to whomever she chooses to talk to.

Approaching oftenly a woman who is “with” a guy can make you look more confident, and draw out the jealous side of the guy, making him look insecure and weak.

The second reason why guys don’t approach woman who is “with” a guy points to a deep insecurity based on a simple misconception.

Men tend to be threatened by other men, they assumed that the “other guy” is more cooler, stronger, or somehow powerful than they are.

This exist in an ancient survival strategy that has been passed through human minds.

The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious, and it’s hard to tell who the more “dominant” person is in any given interaction. So when a male is confronted by another male, he doesn’t know how dominant the other guy is.

As was probably common thousands of years ago, a guy doesn’t know if he will be embarrassed verbally.

So it’s smart to play it safe by assuming that the other guy is a threat. Males who were too bold may have won a few confrontations, but all it took was one loss to end up dead or exiled from the tribe.

And then their genes were taken out of the “game” so to speak.

Those guys that avoided confrontation and played safe are the one that can successfully reproduce and survive.

The irony of this is that nowadays this hard-wired survival strategy is the basis for most approach anxiety - guys avoid women unnecessarily because they are making false assumptions.

The thing is, when you are in the bar or club and you see a woman talking to another guy, you would think she’s not WITH him.

Usually, they JUST MET!

I can’t tell you how many exact times I have approached a woman that is being with a guy that I thought he was “with” that guy or say a boyfriend, then only to find out that it was just a dude that approached her. Or he was just a friend or relative.

I have regrets when I remember that I used to completely not talking to a woman because I saw her being with another guy. So many opportunities that I’ve wasted. This brings me to my first point:

YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO HER. DON’T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL YOU SEE PHYSICAL EVIDENCE.

Approach a woman so that you will know what they really are. Just remember to be alert and respectful, because in the off chance they are together, the guy may be the insecure jealous type and start a physical confrontation.

So be smart and wise - don’t just stick around on having a false judgment.